How do you want to BE? FIX IT and DON’T forget it!

photo credit: Steph Dull
Fixity is the eighth virtue in The Ity Project.  Fixity encourages us to choose our goals and keep them fixed in our minds, steadily and faithfully moving towards them with sincerity and veracity.  With one-pointed focus and equanimity, we are able to resist distractions and return to our intention.
We cultivate fixity in our asana practice by setting our gaze(drishti) or turning our attention to our breath.  We can deepen our focus in meditation by choosing a particular object to meditate or gaze upon.   A true shift in perspective can occur when we broaden the concept of fixity and focus on our state of being as a whole, rather than accomplishing specific goals.
Rather than focusing on specific goals and achievements in your life, we are going to shoot even higher!  We are going to flip the societal script away from some of the typical questions we ask to set our goals:
  • What do you want to be when you grow up?
  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  • What will you study?
  • What are your aspirations?
  • How much money do you want to make?
  • Who do you want to marry or when will you have kids?
  • What will you accomplish or accumulate?
Instead today, ask yourself, “HOW do you want to BE?”  How do you want to BE in this world for however long you have?  How do you want to BE as a person, a human?  How do you want to BE as a friend, a partner, a lover, a co-worker, a relative, or perhaps a parent?  How do you want to BE with a stranger or a child?  How do you want to BE in a stressful situation?  How about in a joyful or mundane situation?  When you leave this life, how will one describe the essence that was you?
Set this sense of BE-ing as your sankalpa. Do not forget it.  Avoid fickleness and distractions.  The other goals you choose to set will naturally fall in line with the intention you have created.  Accomplishments will come with greater ease because they will be a reflection of who you are.  Cultivating and working towards this BE-ing will become your greatest achievement in life.

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